Never let the environment you work in define who you are. Never let someone else’s ego push you down. These are lessons learned through experience, and I’m here to share my story, not just to inspire but to empower you to take control of your own narrative.
The Beginning: A Global Journey of Learning
My journey started on the other side of the world, in China, where I spent three years honing my craft and expanding my perspective. Working in such a dynamic environment gave me a deep appreciation for the diversity of architectural styles and the importance of cultural context in design. From the bustling streets of Shanghai to the tranquil landscapes of rural China, each project was a learning experience that broadened my understanding of architecture’s potential to transform lives.
After my time in China, I moved to London, a city where tradition meets innovation. Here, I had the privilege of working for several prestigious firms, including one of the top 50 architectural practices in the world. These opportunities allowed me to collaborate on groundbreaking projects and learn from some of the brightest minds in the industry. The experience was intense, demanding, and incredibly rewarding. It shaped me into the professional I am today, with a global outlook and a deep well of experience to draw from.
The Warning Signs: A Toxic Environment
Despite the impressive resume and the exciting projects, I couldn’t ignore the signs of a toxic environment when they began to appear. It became clear that something was wrong when I noticed the people around me were always depressed and scared to speak the truth. The atmosphere was suffocating, and I tried to ignore it, focusing on my work and my kids. But then I saw a reflection of a possible future I didn’t want, a woman ten years older, incredibly talented but unrecognised, bitter, and stuck. It was a wake-up call. I had always envisioned a long-term career within a big firm, but suddenly, that dream didn’t seem so appealing.
The Realisation: Breaking Free from the Hamster Wheel
We were like hamsters on a wheel – going through the motions without passion, while only a few at the top enjoyed the benefits. Talking about it wasn’t an option; any attempt at discussion was met with explanations from men who didn’t understand the challenges I faced. It became clear that this wasn’t just a job issue; it was a cultural one.
The Turning Point: Choosing Courage Over Comfort
The hardest part was realising that my parents, especially my mother never truly supported me. When I asked for help, it wasn’t there. But this realisation didn’t break me, it made me stronger. I decided to quit. I didn’t have a plan, but I knew I couldn’t stay in that environment any longer. I trusted myself and the process, and it paid off. Now, I’m in a place where I can be present for my kids, live with less stress, take care of myself, and do what I was born to do—design and art.
The Aftermath: Embracing New Strength
My ex-partner hasn’t been able to co-parent effectively, and that’s still a challenge. But I’m stronger now, more mentally aware, and able to speak up for myself and others. The transition from my old life to my new one was tough, but it was necessary. It allowed me to discover who I really am – a great architect, a fantastic mother, a passionate artist, and an avid runner. Running became my therapy before I started seeing a therapist, helping me process everything happening around me.
The Support System: Lifting Each Other Up
I couldn’t have made it without the incredible support of those around me—other moms, single parents, and even fathers who understand the struggle. We are many, and yet, the work environment doesn’t provide the support we need. It wasn’t just the job; it was everything combined. But I’ll always be grateful to my ex-partner, my ex-employer, and even my mother for pushing me to stand up for myself and my kids. Because of them, I am now aligned with who I truly am and my purpose.
The Gratitude: Shaped by Experience
Looking back, I’m genuinely grateful for every experience I’ve had, from China to London, from the prestigious firms to the challenging environments. Each step, no matter how difficult, has shaped me into the professional I am today—a resilient, innovative, and globally-minded architect. My broad and diverse experience has given me the tools to navigate any challenge and the perspective to see beyond the immediate, always aiming for the best possible outcome.
The Call to Action: Changing the System for Women
Now, I’m calling on the government and employers to support women in the workplace. Ban unpaid overtime, especially when it disproportionately affects mothers who are already juggling so much. My situation was unsustainable—I was competing with single people or fathers who had a partner at home managing everything. Meanwhile, I was doing unpaid overtime and paying for a nanny because I couldn’t work from home.
The New Chapter: Thriving at Natalia Giacomino Architects Ltd.
In the end, I chose my kids, my life, my passion, and the work I love to do. Now, I’m working full-time at Natalia Giacomino Architects Ltd., a place where I can thrive and be my true self. I have the time to make art, as well as support other artists achieve this level of independence with my new project Creations Atelier. This journey wasn’t easy, but it was worth it. And I hope my story encourages other women to take the leap, to trust themselves, and to never let the world define them. You are stronger, braver, and more capable than you know. Keep pushing forward, and always remember. You are doing this for yourself and for those who look up to you.
